NamesAreHard  
"They say that “Confronting triggers, not avoiding them, is the best way to overcome PTSD”. They point out that “exposure therapy” is the best treatment for trauma survivors, including rape victims. And that this involves reliving the trauma and exposing yourself to traumatic stimuli, exactly what trigger warnings are intended to prevent. All this is true. But I feel like they are missing a very important point.

YOU DO NOT GIVE PSYCHOTHERAPY TO PEOPLE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT.

Psychotherapists treat arachnophobia with exposure therapy, too. They expose people first to cute, little spiders behind a glass cage. Then bigger spiders. Then they take them out of the cage. Finally, in a carefully controlled environment with their very supportive therapist standing by, they make people experience their worst fear, like having a big tarantula crawl all over them. It usually works pretty well.

Finding an arachnophobic person, and throwing a bucket full of tarantulas at them while shouting “I’M HELPING! I’M HELPING!” works less well.

And this seems to be the arachnophobe’s equivalent of the PTSD “advice” in the Pacific Standard. There are two problems with its approach. The first is that it avoids the carefully controlled, anxiety-minimizing setup of psychotherapy.

The second is that YOU DO NOT GIVE PSYCHOTHERAPY TO PEOPLE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT."

meowhong:

darshanapathak:

darshanapathak:

Where do I begin.

So I had the misfortune of finding out that a photo taken of me on vacation by my boyfriend, was stolen and used without my permission here on the lovely r/fatpeoplehate on reddit.

It not only disappoints me that people think that this behavior is okay, but that this subreddit even exists and hasn’t been removed at this point. There are TONS of photos of (mostly) women posted there; selfies stolen their personal blogs/facebooks/instagrams what have you (WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION), and posted on this horrible subreddit for people to harass them and leave hundreds of negative comments bravely behind their computer screens where no one can see them.

I have always struggled with my weight and found it hard to get dressed and leave my bed some days, and have only recently started to accept the person I am after years of depression and health issues. I feel extremely violated and hurt that someone thought it was okay to take something that isn’t theirs, and use it for their own amusement and kicks.

We have since contacted reddit requesting them to remove this subreddit, but I find that doubtful considering how many removal requests they have probably received in the past for this forum, and it still remains active.

All I ask from you guys, is that you can please signal boost this post and hopefully get this horrible subreddit taken down for good for the sake of the poor unsuspecting people whose privacy has been violated and self worth diminished by these garbage people who have nothing better to do.

xoxo

Darshana

thanks for all of your support so far! keep spreading the word

if you can, please message ‘caught-u-mirin’ on reddit (the person who stole my photo and made the post above) and kindly (or not) request him/her to remove that post!

This is not cool. I would go on a long rant but long story short: it’s really fucking disgusting how entitled these dudes are to even take a woman’s picture and bash it like that.  Yes, it’s public, but putting it up online without the person’s consent is cowardly, disrespectful and inhumane.  They went against the owners’ wishes (it’s personal, showing people their own lives and expressing themselves as celebration) and abused it; it’s fucking disgusting.

devildoll:

aspecialplaceinhale:

goldicrocs:

tumblr mobile

Im on mobile so I don’t know if the pic is actually of something, or if it’s legit just a stupid gray box

and the circle is complete

devildoll:

aspecialplaceinhale:

goldicrocs:

tumblr mobile

Im on mobile so I don’t know if the pic is actually of something, or if it’s legit just a stupid gray box

and the circle is complete

hussiens:

marinashutup:

"BUT WHAT ABOUT THE MEN?!" - Is Feminism Sexist? - marinashutup

I want to preface this by saying that basically everything Marina has said in the video I believe, but that I have a slight problem with the use of the word “minority”.

Marina herself has already explained further that her use of the word isn’t reflective of the actual mathematical meaning, seeing as women make up more than half the world’s population. Its about the term of how one group is oppressing another group and containing the majority of the political power.

The reason that I don’t want to use the word minority, is because in many cases of minority repression, the goal of the oppressors often want the exclusion of said group from society. Homophobia, Racism, Ableism, prejudice for religious affiliation, are visions that people have of how certain groups are cancerous to society. That if somehow they were removed, you could achieve utopia. Just complete removal of those groups are to people’s supposed interest.

Although initially those forms of oppression seem definitively worse, they also are quite a bit more volatile. It either results in severe oppression of said groups, or backlash from those groups strong enough to make change. Its how I think toleration of anti-semetic tendencies in the western world reached an all time low after the tragedy of the Holocaust.

Women however, as a group, are not a minority. Not only that, but they are a societal necessity. Simply by laws of biology you won’t be able to have any sort of continuous utopia with just men present in a society. And so you can’t just exclude women. Misogyny is about oppressing women while at the same time acknowledging their necessity. It is difficult for someone to be of an LGBT-identifying background to support the oppression of their own group. A group with a level of persecution that many effectively want erased is difficult to convince with a disadvantageous ideology, and their respective oppressors don’t appeal to explaining that its “better for them” that way.

Because the level of oppression in misogyny involves co-option of the oppressed, its very difficult to get rid of unlike these other forms of oppression. Its the same sort of problem that faces another oppressed majority, the poor. You see even in democracies where the ability to vote is given to all equally that time and time again those in poverty-stricken areas choose to support groups who don’t benefit their own economic status. Co-option of those groups is necessary though, so you see groups in power manipulate them into thinking that they’re doing something in their own interest.

Majority oppression is very threatening. More than anything because it doesn’t involve the interest of the majority but instead its manipulation in order to benefit the minority. Its seeming harmlessness allows it to survive basically for most of human history.

That potency is what makes it so engrained in our minds as normal and not as immediately repulsive as it should be.

nupao:

burdenedwith-gloriouspopcorn:

vicfuentesismine:

Want

Want!!

The boobs or the bra? I rather prefer the boobs I dunno if I would hide the bra under my clothes :/

Definitely not a bra meant to be worn under something. Still want.

nupao:

burdenedwith-gloriouspopcorn:

vicfuentesismine:

Want

Want!!

The boobs or the bra? I rather prefer the boobs I dunno if I would hide the bra under my clothes :/

Definitely not a bra meant to be worn under something. Still want.

skyrim,  

What To Do When You Have No Plot

writingbox:

Sometimes you want to write, but you have no plot ideas. Perhaps your fingers are itchy to write, you want to meet a submissions deadline, a character is bugging you to tell their story, or a single image, phrase, or scene is sitting heavy in your head. But you still can’t find the whole story.

So what can you do?

  • Start with characters: find their names, their backstories, their relationships. Create detailed descriptions, draw them, build their family trees. Get them interracting, put them into a room together, or bump them into each other in the street. Read their diaries, their love letters, their bank statements. Get to know them inside out. This is one place where you may find your story.
  • Start with a world: create your map, name the towns, lakes, forests, and mountains. Work out the trade routes, position the markets, the ports, and the industry. Find the history, predict the future. Draw out the borders, bring war, re-draw the borders. Get down to street level and see who lives there. Walk the streets yourself. This is one place where you may find your story.
  • Start with a room: stand in the middle of a room and open your eyes. What does the room look like? What’s in it? How many doors and windows are there? What is the room used for? Who uses it? What has happened here, and what is going to happen here? This is one place where you may find your story.
  • Start with an object: pick something up into your hand. What is it? What is it used for? Who owns it, and who owned it before them? What is it worth, either monetarily or sentimentally? Has it been lost, found, stolen, given away? Why is this object important? This is one place where you may find your story.

thempress:

nosdrinker:

eveltal:

supamuthafuckinvillain:

sageoftenpaths:

WOW

I’m pretty sure you’ve reached Legendary Status when the God of Skating, Tony Hawk looses his shit

That’s literally the move Christ Air from the first tony hawk pro skater game

HE REALLY DID IT

Like Tony Hawk’s Pro Skater is like a bunch of really cool shit you ain’t really supposed to be able to do and he fuckin did it. Like this dude was prolly playin this game with us, and decided fuck that Imma do this shit, and he did it. This is some legendary status type shit right here! 

game-of-style:

House Tyrell - Thierry Mugler Thorn Collar - submitted by savnerdig

game-of-style:

House Tyrell - Thierry Mugler Thorn Collar - submitted by savnerdig